How to Tell If Someone Likes You: 20 signs a person likes you
When you like someone, you want to know if that someone likes you, too. The most obvious question that might come into your mind must be : ‘Does he or she like me back?’
Can you sense when someone likes you? How to tell if someone likes you? Well, it’s a hard question!
Being acquainted with someone but not knowing whether they really like you or not is a stressful affair. That’s why you need to find out about the 20 signs for knowing if he or she likes you back! Here, we will tell you the top 20 signs on how to tell if someone likes you. Our members and dating experts have proven they work.
Today, Luxy shares 20 tell-tale signs to help you know that someone likes you.
Sign #1: They always agree with your opinion
There is a ‘Similarity Principle’ when we make new friends. That means people prefer to hang around others who share similar interests and hobbies. This is because if people agree with your point of view, you get a sense of satisfaction. Simply put: You feel happier and more attracted.
If a guy or girl likes you, they will usually agree with your point of view. This will show in many ways, for example you might suggest going to play tennis on your next date, and even if they don’t really like tennis, they will be over-the-moon to play with you! This works for taste in music too. Say, you tell them your favorite music, which they never heard before. They are sure to ask for your recommendation on some songs from them.In a more romantic gesture, if you mentioned your favorite TV show, they’ll see it as well. They will be super excited to tell you they like the show and discuss the details in the show with you. These details prove they like you.
However, it can also happen that some individuals don’t necessarily agree to 100% with your opinion, choice or taste. But they will respect your point of view and are supportive. You will notice by them wanting to know more or asking to explain. They will always say that your opinion is also very reasonable.
This is because of the famous ‘rose- colored glasses’ effect. On the other hand, if he or she often disagrees with your idea, they may not fancy you. Careful not to mistake it for teasing or flirting!
Sign #2: They want to know more about you.
A good way to tell that your date likes you is if they want to know more about you and your life.
Pay attention of how many questions they ask you. Someone who likes you is sure to want to know more and more, especially in the early stages of dating. While they ask these questions, if they like you, they will be looking at you and they will be paying attention to what you have to say. The reason is simple: they like you and want to extend the time being with you!
But, if they ask questions and they are literally sitting there, on their phone, don’t get your hopes up. And honestly, you should not waste your time anymore because that is downright rude. Or, a sure way to know they are NOT interested is if they don’t ask questions.
Sign #3: They text back - Fairly quick
Okay, this one may seem obvious, but hear us out…
If your dream love does not reply to your messages for a long period of time, they may not be interested in you. Sure, they might be busy, or they might not want to seem ‘too keen’ (if that’s still a thing). But remember, they could also be doing this on purpose, because sometimes it is just less painful to communicate their feelings this way.
They may be too stubborn to reply, because if they did, they’d will feel in conflict and perhaps anxiety. As a result, they’ll tell you they are ‘busy’ or ‘have something to do’ to reduce their anxiety.
Sign #4: Physical contact
Now the science has proven this time and time again. When we are attracted to someone, we want to be around them A LOT. Someone who is actively looking for little chances to make physical contact (not in an inappropriate way!), is definitely into you!
If they have not actively refused any physical interaction and occasionally do, make contact, take it as a positive sign. They likely feel comfortable around you and trust you.
These small points of contact will occur throughout the date, from a light hug upon meeting you, maybe a light kiss on the cheek, to playfully touching your arm/shoulder when you find something funny (or when the guy says a joke). You can also find that they “accidentally” brush against you a few too many times for it to be accidental. Well, that’s all good news!
But just because they don’t make any physical contact, doesn’t mean they despise you. They might just be so nervous they don’t dare. This is a perfect opportunity for you to introduce some flirting, they are sure to notice that.
Sign #5: On a date, their attention is on you
When you are on your first dates, there are also some signs that will show you if a guy or girl likes you. For example, when you are telling a funny story, they will laugh even if it is not funny. They will pay attention, ask follow-up questions and the conversation will flow smoother than you could imagine.
Otherwise, here’s how you know that they DON’T like you: They play on their phone, talk to others too much, don’t ask questions or you are the one that is constantly talking on the date. When the conversation just feels like pulling dirt out of a carpet, they may not be interested in you.
Sign #6: Apparently, they don’t eat a lot…
Studies show that girls will eat less when eating with their dream love. (Sorry, this is not applicable to boys). I don’t know if this is to look ‘slimmer’ and therefore ‘more attractive’, but it also could be that their tummy is already full of butterflies.
So, if you are lucky enough to dine with your goddess, pay attention to what she is ordering. While you might find it attractive that she is not afraid to order that double decker burger with onion rings on the side, science says you shouldn’t get your hopes up. If she is eating an excessive amount during the meal, she may not reciprocate that special feeling that you have.
Take this one with a pinch of salt. We don’t think it is wrong for a woman to eat a good, healthy amount of food, on a date or not.
Sign #7: Gifts will get them thinking
You are still unsure and left wondering if that someone does like you? Yes, sometimes it is just tough.
Give them small, even silly gifts here and there (not too often and not expensive at all!). See how they react. If they are happy to receive your gift, this means they generally think well of you.
Their reaction could include smiling from ear to ear, giggling, suddenly becoming very shy, or they might even want to hug you and reciprocate this lovely gesture. If your date is on the shy side, this might show less, so give it some time.
Sign #8: Actions speak louder than words
If they keep telling you things like you’re wonderful but they are not ready to have a relationship, while it doesn’t necessarily mean they are not into you, they certainly aren’t the right relationship material. Do not even try to wait for the days when they are ready. And for the love of God, don’t think they will change for you. The brutal truth is that they just won’t, and people who play games with you are just wasting your precious time.
Instead, look out for those who are eager to see you for the next day, who arrange concrete plans for the weekend. So that instead of a ‘I’ll drop you a text’ message, you receive a ‘I’ll pick you up at 7pm on Saturday, it’s a date’ – kind of text. Because when they say you are great and fun, it will show if they mean it. If they are truly attracted they can’t resist you, and this is the easiest way to know they truly like you.
Sign #9: What they do when you don’t have time for them
This one is perhaps a little less known trick to find out if someone likes you, but it sure tells a lot about how they feel about you.
If one day, you are extremely busy, and it is simply not possible to get back to their messages (especially if it is for a longer time), pay attention to how they react. There is a difference between understanding that you are busy, so they don’t bother you, and indifference.
If they don’t seem to care at all, they don’t send you ANY texts, or they are not curious about your absence afterwards, they are not that interested in you. But remember, there is nothing wrong with sending short, flirtatious texts here and there, even on your busiest of days.
Sign #10: Pay attention to their eyes.
If they are interested in you, they’ll always look at you. There is a good way to help you to test this out: first look at their faces for four seconds, then look away and look back again.
Do they keep eye contact with you?
If the answer to that question is a yes, then it proves they are interested in you.
Another way to be sure that they’re 100% attracted? They often look at your lips. When you are talking, their eyes maintain eye contact for two or three seconds longer than is perhaps common. However, if you notice them actively looking away and they avoid any eye contact, they are not interested.
Sign #11: You get special treatment
Observe how they act around you in a group. If they really like you, their attitude to you must be different from others, and you will receive some form of a special treatment.
Some boys will even flirt with other girls to attract their dream girl’s attention. They want to know your reaction to see if you like them. Yes, I know this sounds silly and ridiculous and even childlike, but it’s true. Men want to be sure that you like them, and if you like them a lot, they expect some kind of a reaction.
Fortunately, if you check carefully, you are able to know if he is doing this intentionally. If he just wants to attract your attention, he will secretly observe your performance when flirting with other girls. See if he keeps looking over at you. Alternatively, excuse yourself to go to the bathroom, if he stops when you leave, he is into you but not others – ask your friends help you find out.
Sign #12: Your date has the jitters.
What a wonderful feeling it is, to feel all tingly and nervous and excited about meeting someone you absolutely adore! Well, you certainly think it is.
Watch out for little giveaways to see if your date is nervous around you. If we like someone, we always want to portray ourselves in the best light possible. So here are some hints on how to recognise a nervous date:
Are they normal when they are laughing? Do they laugh/giggle too often? Are they sweating or taking deep breaths to calm down? Or are they looking away when they notice you are looking at them? Do they fidget a lot? Perhaps they are sipping on their drink way too often to just quench the thirst.
There are many signs of the jitters, and sometimes it can be confusing. Watch where they look, how often they look around. If their eyes are hopping from one thing to another very quickly they likely have some butterflies too. These are the signs to know if a guy or girl likes you.
Sign #13: Take a look at their friends
While being in a group of friends can seem like a strange way to find out if someone likes YOU, it is far from it. If their friends know they like you, it creates some tension between them. They might create a joke when you are around, they might nudge each-other or they look at you two with anticipation, and frequently. Sometimes, they will even purposefully leave you two alone. This is great for you.
So, the next time you are all hanging out together, have a look at their friends, see if they give one another a mysterious or a cheeky look.
Sign #14: Do they imitate your actions?
Probably, you have heard this before. Imitation is a sign to see if a person likes you. You might find that they always mimic your movements, maybe they sip on their wine when you do, or you might shuffle on the chair, so they might do the same. Maybe you tilt your eha a little, and they do the same… in that case, it is likely that they like you.
If you are going out for lunch together at work, see if they follow you to the same table in the canteen. Just any excuse to be around you, really, is a sign that someone likes you.
You can also try to imitate their movements. For example, when they touch their hair, you can also touch your hair, or maybe they lean on their hand (against the chin), copy the same movement. All of this says: ‘I also like you’.
Sign #15: Teasing you with jokes
Old and tried, no? It’s like when that boy in the playground pulls a girl by her pony tail… Well, similar. Playing modest jokes with you and teasing you with just about anything is a fairly good sign to know if a guy or girl likes you.
Of course, if the jokes are not appropriate, you should tell them directly that you don’t like it. Let them know that you deserve to be respected from the beginning, and they will have to adjust their behaviour. After all, we are not in the playground anymore.
Sign #16: Do they praise you all the time?
This is a subtle sign that will reveal if someone really likes you. Praise is used as a positive association with dogs, right? Well, (un)surprisingly it works with us humans also. We like to be praised and we often develop a special bond with those who praise us. Your beaux might find the simplest of things to give you compliments!
If they notice your style is different than usual or that you changed your hairstyle, it shows that they pay a lot of attention to you. If they give you compliments on things like these, probably they like you. And remember to accept the compliment too!
So, if he says ‘You are very beautiful today’ or ‘I like your shirt’ or ‘You have a new hair cut? Looks cute!’, then he likes you!
Sign #17: Touching…
This is a very sneaky but unnoticed way for someone to show you that they like you. Often times, when they do the following things, they don’t even know that they are doing it!
Maybe you went for a coffee date or perhaps you are sitting opposite each other at a restaurant, how would you notice if they feel a certain way about you? Well, the person that likes you will touch their hair, arms/shoulders, his clothes, etc – very often. They simply want to continually make sure that they look their best in front of you! Also, nerves are a funny thing…. But this is definitely a good sign to tell if someone likes you!
Sign #18: Calling your NAME
We already mentioned that when someone likes you, they will check out your physical presence. But, another way to find out if someone likes you is listening out for your name. It has been scientifically proven that when we like someone, we will repeat their name a lot of times.
So, the next time you are hanging out with that special someone, make sure to look out for your name. Do they say your name way too often? Or maybe just take each opportunity they have to call you by your name. Cuter yet, if they make up sweet nicknames for you they are definitely into you!
Sign #19: Leaning in
This works very well for both men and women because sometimes the simplest of body language gestures can tell the most!
Are you leaning in? Are they leaning in?
A great way to check what your chemistry is, is by checking what you are doing. If you are taking the initiative (or you might do this subconsciously because you are attracted to the person sitting across you) and you lean in over the table, make sure to see if he is already leaning slightly forwards or not. And if he is not, if you move forwards he might lean forwards too! If he does, it is a great sign to know that someone is certainly attracted!
Sign #20: Respond to the signs!
There may come a time when your special someone decides to express their feelings for you. When this happens, you should definitely reply to them politely and promptly, and take the opportunity to do the same.
Now that you know the 20 signs of how to tell if someone likes you, you will able to distinguish much faster between the people who really like you and those where using more energy is probably just a waste of time.
If you want to continue the relationship, do not miss the chance. Check out the next steps, like the five stages of every relationship. Then, find ways to approach them and let them know your true feelings first!
If all the signs are there but the guy avoids to make eye contact at least most of the time so what does it show? is he still into the girl or all the other signs are just a misunderstanding? super confused at this stage. need your expert advice!
That’s a really good question Nina!
There is a chance the guy is very shy. Maybe he likes the girl very much but has little experience in this area and eye contact could make his heart race too much! It could also be a unique quirk of his to avoid eye contact, how does he act with other people? If all the other signs are there it is likely that he does like the girl very much.
I’m not sure if you are the female in question but do both people communicate often by text or phone? If he is sending the girl messages very often this is a sign he is trying to spend as much time as possible with who he is interested in. You could even ask him if he has a girlfriend and see what his response is. Does he suddenly become nervous or want to smile after saying no? It’s another likely sign he is very much interested.
The only method to find out 100% is for the girl to ask him what he thinks of her.
I hope this helps! Please let me know if you want some more advice! I’d also love to know how the situation works out, i’m hoping for a happy romantic ending!
Great piece of writing friend. I have met the girl of my dreams. she is fun, lively and most importantly has a superb dressing sense. when we talk, she touches her hair a lot but she does not seem confused or anything when we talk. she goes out with me but it is not any sort date or something due to outdoor work, we go together two 2 to 3 times in a month. I have a question; can she really be into me? I am afraid to make a move what if I have been assuming it this whole time? Could you help me by sharing some advice? I do need it at this point.
Great question Robert!
Are all of your meetings together work related? Why not ask her out for lunch or dinner one evening? Or you could ask if she would like to go to a show you have tickets for. If she is really not interested she may say something like ‘i hope you didn’t get the wrong idea, but i don’t look at you this way’. You can respond that you are asking as a friend as you have free time. AT least you will still have the person in your life as a friend.
Or do you communicate by text or phone regularly? Start sharing more information about yourself and asking information about her. You can ask if she is seeing anybody (remember this not uncommon to ask between friends) and see how she responds. Maybe she says no and gives you a smile, then you can ask her on a date as she is probably interested. Worst case she says she is taken, but you will know the truth.
I know its hard to work out the answer and get the courage to ask her directly; these signs are only suggestions and not 100% guarantees as every human being is different.
If you ask her the worst thing she can say is no and the best thing is that you experience one of the happiest experiences if life. I will give you a quote from Will Smith ‘In one second, you realize that it’s the most blissful experience of your life. You’re flying. There’s zero fear. … The best things in life are on the other side of terror, on the other side of your maximum fear, are all of the best things in life.‘
It can be hard to pick up on the signals, especially as when you are with her you feel this overwhelming sense of love. When all you can think about is the girl sat next to you and it’s hard to spot any signals. The only 100% sure method is to ask her.
I hope this helps! Let me know if you want some more advice my friend!
I have just come out of a 6 year relationship and I am try to find my way throw this hard time. I am wanting to meet over women but being I a 6 year relationship I have forgotten how to approach women I am nervous to even start a conversation with them how can I over come this please can you help?
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