How to Increase the Quality of Matches on Dating Apps?

Q: If I'm using strict filters, why do I sometimes still see recommendations that don't match my preferences?

This can happen on 'Discover' or 'Browse' pages. These sections sometimes show public users the platform thinks you might be interested in, to expand your potential match pool. To have complete control over who appears in your view, consider enabling Incognito Mode (where only people you like can see you) or check if you're using all available advanced filter options.

By Dr. Max Langdon — Senior Digital Dating Analyst. Specializing in the psychological strategy of high-value relationships, market dynamics, and behavioral analysis of elite dating communities.

Dating apps have transformed the way people connect, but with so many users, the key to success lies in the quality of matches rather than quantity. If you’re looking to increase the quality of matches, there are specific strategies and practices you can adopt to optimize your profile and interaction methods. This article will dive into practical ways to refine your dating app experience, ensuring more meaningful and compatible matches.

Key Takeaways

High-Quality Profiles Attract High-Quality Matches: Your profile should repel incompatibility and attract aligned matches.
Selective Engagement is Crucial: Don’t swipe mindlessly. Be discerning and consistent.
Leverage Technology for Screening: Use video calls or in-app features to confirm compatibility.
Unmatching is Part of the Process: Don’t be afraid to remove matches that aren’t a good fit.

The Core Principle: Quality Attracts Quality

The foundational law of digital dating is that your profile acts as a filter. It doesn’t just attract people; it repels the wrong ones and signals to the right ones. Increasing match quality is less about maximizing likes and more about precision targeting.

1. Optimize Your Profile for Authenticity and Clarity

Your dating profile is the first impression potential matches will have of you, so it’s crucial to present yourself authentically. A well-crafted profile increases your chances of attracting people who align with your values and interests.

Profile Picture Tips

Your primary photo should be clear, well-lit, and show you smiling or engaged in something you love. Avoid using group photos, as it can confuse potential matches. People should be able to tell exactly who you are and what you enjoy.

Tip: Use recent, high-quality images that reflect your true self. Authenticity is key in attracting like-minded individuals.

Profile Bio

Be specific in your bio, highlighting your interests, what you’re looking for in a partner, and what makes you unique. Avoid vague or generic statements, as they won’t resonate with someone seeking genuine connections.

Stat: A study by OkCupid revealed that users who write more detailed profiles tend to get 10-15% more matches than those with one-liners.

2. Leverage Advanced Filters and Preferences

Most dating apps, including Luxy, offer various filters and preference settings. These allow you to narrow down your search to individuals who meet specific criteria such as age, location, lifestyle, and interests. This feature ensures you’re connecting with people who share your key values and goals.

Tip: Don’t shy away from using the app’s search filters to increase the chances of finding people who fit your ideal match profile.

3. Engage Proactively and Thoughtfully

Waiting for matches to message you can be passive. Instead, take the initiative. Start by sending thoughtful messages that reference something specific in the other person’s profile, such as a shared interest or a question about their hobbies.

Tip: Avoid generic openers like “Hey” or “What’s up?”. A personalized message shows you’re genuinely interested in getting to know the person.

4. Upgrade to Premium Features for More Control

Many apps offer premium features that enhance your ability to connect with higher-quality matches. For example, Luxy offers options like Luxy Plus and Luxy Black, which give you access to more refined search filters, the ability to see who liked you, and even video dates to assess compatibility before meeting in person.

Tip: Premium features help you stand out and provide access to additional tools that filter out lower-quality matches.

5. Profile Verification and Photo Authenticity

Trust and safety are crucial for forming quality relationships online. Many platforms, like Luxy, have robust verification systems to ensure users are genuine. Verifying your profile or photos not only increases your credibility but also helps to reduce interactions with fake profiles and scammers.

Tip: A verified profile increases your chances of connecting with serious, authentic individuals.

6. Use Luxy’s Selective Dating Feature

For those on Luxy, the Selective Dating feature allows you to match based on both personal interests and lifestyle compatibility. This feature is tailored to connect you with others who prioritize similar goals and values, increasing the quality of your interactions.

7. Practice Safety and Respect

Lastly, always prioritize safety. When engaging with new people, keep personal details like phone numbers or addresses private until trust is established. Make sure to use the app’s reporting tools if you encounter suspicious behavior.

Tip: Keep safety in mind while pursuing online connections. Trust is vital in cultivating meaningful relationships.

Platform Choice: Selecting Communities with Quality Gates

If your goal is high quality and serious commitment, the platform you choose is your first and most important filter.

Quality Control Mechanism (Luxy Case Study):

Luxy’s effectiveness stems from its emphasis on a curated user base.

Mandatory Vetting Process: All new members must undergo a 24-hour Profile Review to ensure the community consists of “successful and authentic people.” The platform explicitly prohibits “sugar babies or sugar daddies,” ensuring the focus remains on serious dating.
Paid Filtering Advantage: Premium features (like Luxy BLACK/PLATINUM) offer advanced, highly specific filters (e.g., education, intent, lifestyle) and allow for proactive, un-matched messaging (BLACK Messages), giving you decisive control over your match quality.

Dating App Quality Control Comparison Table

App Type	Target Audience	Core Advantage	Quality Control Mechanism	Match Quality Tendency
Selective Vetting Platform (e.g., Luxy)	High-value, Elite, Serious Daters	Curated community, clear intent	Strict manual profile/photo review; financial/professional criteria may apply	High: Long-term, deeply compatible matches with aligned intent
Interest-Oriented (e.g., Hinge, OkCupid)	Seeking shared interests, personality match	High profile information, conversational depth	Emphasizes prompts, questions, interest tags	Medium-High: Data-driven compatibility matching
Traditional Mainstream (e.g., Tinder, Bumble)	Mass Market, Broad, Casual/Serious Mix	Largest user base, highest volume	Primarily relies on photo verification, reporting mechanisms	Medium: High match volume, inconsistent quality

Conclusion

Increasing the quality of your matches on dating apps requires a combination of optimizing your profile, using the right tools, and engaging authentically with others. By prioritizing genuine connections, leveraging advanced features, and practicing safety, you can significantly improve your chances of finding the right match.

Expert Q&A

Q: I’m getting matches, but the conversations always fizzle out quickly. What’s the issue?
A: This is typically a problem with either your opening message or your profile. If your profile is too generic, the other person will have a hard time finding a specific topic to start a conversation about. If your opening line is simply “Hi,” the dialogue naturally tends to stall. Ensure your profile has “conversation hooks” (like unique hobbies, travel experiences, etc.) and use a personalized opening message that references specific details from the other person’s profile.

Q: Do paid dating apps really lead to higher-quality matches?
A: Usually, yes. Paid apps (like eHarmony, Match.com, The League, etc.) often attract a user base that is more serious about finding relationships due to the financial commitment involved. They also provide more powerful filtering tools (such as Luxy BLACK’s “Search by Location” and “Advanced Filters”), allowing you to target your search more precisely. However, please note that paying for an app cannot compensate for a low-quality profile; it simply provides more efficient tools.

Q: How important is it to explicitly state “Looking for a relationship” in my profile?
A: It’s very important. A 2023 Pew Research Center report found that 44% of dating app users are seeking a long-term partner, while 40% are looking for casual dating. Clearly stating your intention helps manage expectations and allows those looking for casual encounters to self-filter out. This increases the proportion of matches that align with your goals.

Q: If I’m using strict filters, why do I sometimes still see recommendations that don’t match my preferences?
A: This can happen on “Discover” or “Browse” pages. These sections sometimes show public users the platform thinks you might be interested in, to expand your potential match pool. To have complete control over who appears in your view, consider enabling Incognito Mode (where only people you like can see you) or check if you’re using all available advanced filter options.

How to Increase the Quality of Matches on Dating Apps?

Key Takeaways